Answer 1:
"intense affection", "a feeling of attraction
resulting from sexual desire","enthusiasm or
fondness", "a beloved person", "to enjoy
enthusiastically". Scientists can't really define
love any more than that. I've read some things
related to the increase of a person's blood
pressure when they see a "beloved" person, but
that's about it.
I find it kind of nice
that science can't explain everything, especially
this topic, how boring the world would be if
everything was easily explained.
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Answer 3:
I am not an expert on the science of emotions, you
could say that I'm just interested on the topic of
emotions and that I read about them on my spare
time, so take my answer merely as an educated
opinion rather than an expert one. The science
of emotions is indeed a difficult one. Most work
done in this area belongs to biochemists,
neurologists and psychologists. Much of it tries
to relate the effect of release of certain
chemicals in our bodies (mainly hormones) to the
brain mechanisms that they produce or inhibit.
There is also a lot of work done on how evolution
has produced certain connections inside our brains
that respond in particular ways to certain
stimuli, thus creating behaviors that may be
included in the area of emotions. We can give two
examples: The love of parents towards their
kids can be atributed (among other things) to the
instinct of survival of the species; the young
ones of any species are the future: if they die,
the species will become extinct. Therefore,
species where the kids are better protected tend
to be more successful in staying alive. The love
between a man and a woman can also be atributed to
(among other things) the same need of
survival. The feeling of "being in love"
produces in our body the release of certain
chemicals that soothe the brain and create a state
of well-being that is very pleasant. Some
scientists claim that the ingestion of chocolate
produces a very similar response; maybe that's why
people like chocolate so much. ;)
In the
first example, we have a biological origin for
love, but it doesn't explain several things, such
as: Why do we love some people more than others?
Why is love sometimes so selfless? What about the
brotherly love inside a family or a group of
friends? The second example tells us how it's
possible to explain that love is a pleasant
experience per se, without waiting for other
rewards, but it doesn't tell us what triggers it,
what makes us love. For biology of emotions in
general, the first chapters of Daniel Coleman's
"Emotional Intelligence" can be an interesting
further reading, depending on the age of the
students.
According to Eric Fromm, love can
arise from the need of the human being to be
connected to others; when we take conscience of
ourselves, when we realize that we exist and we're
different from each other, we can also feel small
in comparison to the big world in front of us, and
that makes us want to be connected to other people
in order not to feel so small. However, that
author also maintains that true love (of every
kind: love between parents and children, between
friends, between a man and a woman) can only exist
if it comes together with a certain choice and
commitment. Otherwise, it's just an emotion that
can come and go with the wind. This last paragraph
is more related to the psicology of love rather
than the biology of it. Depending on the age and
maturity of the students, some passages of Eric
Fromm's "The art of loving", selected by an
educator, could be interesting. This approach
relates more the origin and mechanisms of love to
psichology.
Last, but not least, people
have also looked for the origin of love in
religion. Most religions believe in the general
principle of "love thy neighbor". They also link
the ability of loving (and hating) to the ability
of making free choices: the human being is created
with the ability to reason, to choose between good
(love) and evil (hate), and this makes us
different to the animals, in the sense that we
don't only have emotions (that could be explained
from a purely biochemical and evolutive point of
view) but also feelings (where psichology has had
a lot of work).
So, after all this, what's
it going to be? Well, the answer is not clear, but
my personal opinion is that what we, very loosely,
call love, is a mixture of all of the above. There
are emotions that we associate to love (when we
meet for the first time this boy or girl that
makes our heart beat faster, when we say "look at
that little baby, isn't he/she cute?", and so on),
there are choices and commitments that we
associate to love (the relationship inside a
family where everybody sticks together despite ups
or downs, forgiveness of friends, and so on), and
there are scientific explanations of all sorts to
them, provided by different fields in science,
from pure biochemistry to psichology. But I
believe that the origin of love is deeper than
that. I belive that the ability to love (not only
as an emotion, but as a deep feeling that can
guide our life) is one of the things that truly
separate mankind from the rest of the animals, and
it would be a shame not to use it for good.
Finally, I do believe in God, and I believe that
he has put in us this ability to love (though of
course this is not scientific at all...), but if I
didn't believe in God, probably love itself would
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